Hey there, Let's talk about one of the most important parts of any wedding ceremony - your vows! These heartfelt promises are like the cherry on top of your special day, the icing on the cake, the magical moment that guests remember long after the music stops playing and the confetti settles. Writing your wedding vows can feel daunting and overwhelming, but fear not! I'm here to help you navigate this emotional rollercoaster and make the process a little less complicated and scary. So grab a cup of tea and let's dive in together and get started writing those wedding vows!
Step 1: Set the Tone
When it comes to your vows, it's important to think about the overall tone you want to convey. Are you going for something formal or informal? Optimistic or hopeful? Loving, romantic, or funny? The choice is yours!
To stay on track, try writing 1-2 sentence statements about your partner, keeping in mind the tone or tones you want to embrace. This will help you stay true to the vibe you're aiming for.
Step 2: Let Your Emotions Flow
Writing your vows is a beautiful opportunity to pour your heart out and express all the things you adore, admire, and cherish about your partner. Start by making a list of the qualities, quirks, and moments that make them so special to you. Do they make you laugh with their quirky sense of humour? Are they kind-hearted, giving, and always there to support you? Remember to also include funny stories, precious memories, and the little things they do or say that warm your heart. Your vows are a love letter to your soon-to-be spouse, so make them personal and all about them.
Step 3: Transform Ideas into Sentences
Take a look at the list you've created and start transforming those ideas into heartfelt sentences. Here are some sentence starters to get your creative juices flowing:
"I remember the first time I saw you..."
"What attracted me to you was..."
"I can't imagine life without your..."
"You light up my world when..."
"With just a [insert something specific], my whole day/life was changed."
For example:
"I remember the first time I saw you standing by your friends at that party."
"What attracted me to you was your eyes and smile, but it didn't take me long to discover that under your hard exterior was a kind, caring, and giving person."
"I can't imagine a life without your need to correct my grammar and spelling, or our late-night board game marathons. And let's not forget your secret dream of being on MasterChef one day. Until then, I'll happily be your taste tester." Step 4: Let’s Add the Love This is all about incorporating heartfelt expressions into your wedding vows. Think about why you want to marry your significant other, when you knew you were in love with them, what you miss most about them when they're gone, and even those little quirks about them that drive you crazy (but in a good way, of course). These statements will serve as the foundation for your vows. • I can’t imagine life without your..
• I love how you…
• My love for you has grown plenty because...
Step 5: Make a Promise, Pledge or Commitment This is all about making a promise, pledge, or commitment to your partner to always be by their side. This is where you can really get creative with your vows. Let your personality shine through and make it unique to the two of you. Whether it's funny or formal, just remember to be specific with how you will show your love and devotion to your partner. · "I vow to always support you”,
· “I promise to never steal the covers unless, you’re hogging them first”,
· “I promise to love you until my last breath”,
· “I promise to let you think you’ve won every argument and decision and take the blame when it doesn’t work out”.
· “I devote my life to you”
· “I promise to give you a puppy”
· “Today I vow…”
Step 6: What is to come
This is all about looking towards the future and all the amazing things you will do together. Think about what you want to accomplish as a couple, like buying a house, starting a family, or even just traveling the world together. The possibilities are endless!
Step 7: Finish with Bang This is where you finish your vows with a ba
ng. This is your chance to declare your absolute love and devotion to your partner. Go big or go hom
e, right? · “I can’t believe that I will soon get to call you my wife/ husband/ partner”
· “You are my forever, and I can’t wait for forever to start”
· “I can’t think of anyone as fun and loyal to share this journey with”
· “I love you”
Step 8: Look for Inspiration This has got you covered. Look for inspiration anywhere and everywhere - social media, poems, movies, your favourite location, a friend's wedding. Make your vows unique to you and your partner.
Step 9: Pull Everything Together
This is where we pull everything together to make your sentences turn into vows and they flow beautiful. Just remember to speak from the heart as though you are having a conversation and let your love shine through.
If you have trouble with this part fear not this is were me as celebrant can steps in and look it over and help pull it together.
So there you have it 9 simple steps to creating heartfelt, personal and meaningful vows for your wedding!
Until next time, happy writing!
xoxo
Laura
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